Monday, December 10, 2007
Our 10-month-old daughter recently started to crawl. Our safety gates by the stairs, which we purchased and installed last summer, now are a welcome sight instead of an unsightly obstacle.
During family time in the evenings after work, we've started letting Mihret loose to explore the nooks and crannies of her nursery, while we watch eagerly to see toward which toy she'll gravitate.
But at the same time, I've been experiencing an urge to draw her close, to hold and hug more tightly when she wants more than anything in that moment to move.
This milestone makes me realize how quickly children grow and change, and how fearful I am of the dangers lurking in unfamiliar territory.
We've gotten past the first scary moment, when we realized Mihret's stationary days were drawing to a close.
I'd placed her in the middle of our bed, an early morning hangout, and briefly turned my back after ending a phone call to put the phone in its cradle.
In the time it took me to do that, Mihret had flipped from back to stomach — which she'd done before — and scooted off the opposite side of our bed, which she hadn't. I rushed over, only to find her on all fours and grinning up at me. She'd landed in our bedside laundry basket, on top of a pile of dirty laundry.
Before she takes her first steps, I'm just going to have to loosen up and learn how to let go a little.
Kara Patterson: Post-Crescent staff writer
Monday, October 29, 2007
In it, my husband Josh and I are silhouetted on a country club's dance floor, where we celebrated after our Aug. 14, 1999, church ceremony.
We're leaning in close, our foreheads touching slightly. It's the way we looked in our very early 20s. It's the way we will look, God willing, when we're our grandparents' age.
It's good to have that bedside reminder of how a relationship at its core can be timeless.
Another reminder came recently for us during our church's annual marriage retreat in Green Lake, when our church's pastor, who helped marry us, allowed us and other couples the opportunity to renew our wedding vows after a special dinner.
Eight years ago, we didn't write our own vows. In those days, we were too busy studying abroad and finishing college (me), and settling into a first "real" post-college job (Josh).
During the weekend getaway, which encouraged leaving wrist watches at home, we had the time to write out individual vows.
At dinner, we were the first couple to step forward. Our pastor and his wife, and the other couples present, circled around us as we stood under a canopy that symbolized God's hand over our lives.
I told Josh that he completes me as my other half, that I would continue to ask God's guidance so I could be the person He, and he, needed me to be.
Josh then shared his vow, that we would grow old together, "in all the good and bad ways people get older."
It's good to know some things don't have to change.
Kara Patterson: Post-Crescent staff writer
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
My 7-month-old daughter, Mihret, is blessed because her paternal grandparents also are Fox Valley residents. We love our standing Sunday lunches.
But her maternal grandparents live nine hours away in Indiana, as does her 89-year-old great-grandma, my Grandma F.
Something Grandma F. said recently got me thinking about how sad but inevitable it is that many young children now live out of arms' reach of at least one set of grandparents.
"If I were five years younger," Grandma F. said to my mom, who relayed the words via phone, "and I lived where you live, I would baby-sit Mihret."
Aging has taken its toll, and with it this opportunity in a practical sense. But the sincerity of Grandma F.'s wish triggered my memories of a three-year childhood stretch when I lived within 45 minutes of all of my grandparents.
My Grandma F. eagerly "gave in" when I begged to walk to the bookmobile. She said prayers, played cards and sang songs with me.
She also once tested me on "stranger danger" by asking a trusted friend of hers to stop by while I played outside to see if I would go for ice cream. (I got a lecture instead when I said yes.)
My Grandpa V. told me stories about how he landed in Africa and ended up in Europe during his World War II military service.
Grandma V. and Grandpa V. let me help them fetch spring water, pick out sweet corn and solve the newspaper's daily crossword puzzle.
Learning and growing within arms' reach of both sets of her grandparents is what I wish for Mihret, whose weekly link to my parents is a Web camera.
Unfortunately, the technology doesn't do justice to her giggles, and their hugs will just have to wait.
Kara Patterson: Post-Crescent staff writer
Monday, September 10, 2007
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
Monday, September 3, 2007
On the wall of the CHSFS Ethiopia care center's playroom for older children is our daughter's 6-month-old handprint. It's in red paint, a tiny blob of a signature because Mihret didn't want to open her hand and spread her fingers when one of the social workers pressed her hand against the wall. But I admit, it's the most beautiful blob I've ever seen. Two days before our travel group departed Ethiopia to take our children home, CHSFS Ethiopia held what we've been calling a "handprint ceremony" to preserve the memory of our children's time at the care center and to allow the caregivers and CHSFS Ethiopia staff to say goodbye. For us, the families bringing these precious Ethiopian children into our lives, the ceremony was about saying goodbye "for now" to the country and people that had so graciously and warmly welcomed us. And it also was about saying hello to our newfound family - for, as the CHSFS Ethiopia social worker who led the ceremony told us, we are now part of Ethiopian society forever, for we are welcoming Ethiopia's children into our homes and our hearts forever. The social worker told us that even though the roughly 140 nannies - the primary caregivers at the care center for more than 200 children daily - and other CHSFS staff took care of our children for a short time, they love these children. And, she continued, even though it is hard to let them go, the staff knows the good hearts and homes that await our children. They love us, too, she said, because we, too, love the children. Each child received a construction-paper heart with their names lettered in Amharic script - which looks a bit like hieroglyphics - and English. Inside the heart-shaped card, staff had written thoughts and memories about each child. They told Mihret how wonderful it had been to care for such a beautiful and sweet baby. They told her they would miss her very much, and that they wish the best for her over her entire life. As everyone clapped in a steady beat, we walked Mihret up to the handprint wall for her turn to leave her mark. She looked tiny and a bit scared in her traditional white, cotton dress with green accents, and a matching head scarf with a loose bow that flopped into her curls. One of the two pediatricians on staff at CHSFS Ethiopia - the woman who had met personally with us to give us Mihret's health summary and records - prayed in Amharic over all assembled. Then, several of us said prayers in English.
Growing up in my half-Italian family, to share food was to share love. That day in Ethiopia, we ate cake and drank bottled soda to conclude our celebration.
In a few months, Mihret's name also will go up on the wall alongside the few hundred other children who've found forever families through CHSFS Ethiopia. When we were there, we were able to locate and snap a picture of another child's name for our dear friends in Appleton who also brought their daughter home from the care center, several months prior to our trip. We hope someday to return to that room, God willing, in several years, to place another child's handprint upon that wall. My heart remains full of Ethiopia. If you see me, or want to e-mail me, ask me about it. I'll gladly tell you more about our experience, and about our overseas family.
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
Sunday, August 5, 2007
Thursday, August 2, 2007
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
What Kara didn't talk about is just how insane things have been here. Here's what happened. We got on the plane in Appleton. We got to Chicago. Our flight was delayed in Chicago, so we didn't make our flight in Frankfurt. We ended up flying through Cairo to get to Addis, and we got here at 3 in the morning. Our driver got the message (thanks to some expensive phone calls) but our luggage didn't get here until Monday. Must go - out of time.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Wednesday, July 25, 2007